How to Choose the Best Gift for Your Spouse or Lover

Giving gift has been proven over and over again as among the best love Generator in the universe.

There is no question on its effectiveness in helping human kind since the beginning of time in expressing love, feeling loved, expressing apologies, recognizing sincerity, showing thankfulness, feeling touched, receiving forgiveness and many more.

However, the best effect comes only with the best gift.

So how do we choose the best gift?

Here’s 9 tips to choose the best gift that will melt the heart of the receiver:

Pay attention to the things that person loves

This might be too obvious but always been taken for granted. To have the best reaction for your gift, it’s not sufficient to just brainstorm the possible gift. Or copy gifts given by other couples which got awesome reactions. No. it doesn’t work that way. To get the best impact from your gift, you need to choose the best gift for your loved one your self.

The best gift to your best friend’s girlfriend is not a confirmation that the gift would be the best gift to your girlfriend.

Choose gifts that suit your loved one's interest and passion. 

Make a list of the interest

This is very basic, yet many failed to give it a proper attention. Make a list. This is to give you choices and filter out the less special one. Some prefer on a paper, some prefer on their head. It’s ok. Make sure you have 5 things on your list. If you have more than 5, shorten the list to just 5. This way, you’ll filter the less effective gifts. This also enable you to give the perfect gift to your loved one.

Split testing

When you already have the 5 things on your list, proceed and give a hint about all of them in an indirect way. If you have traveling in your list, say something like “wish we can be some where else now…” pay attention to his/her reactions. It’s the best potential gift when you get “OMG!” or “I wish we can be ……. Now” or “AAAAAaaaa!!!!” or any other passionate reactions.

Note that you’ll get a mush lower pitch reactions from guys. Like “Ahh..i wish..” or  a light up facial expressions or a fast look from him or something. All of these shows extreme excitement. Chances are, you’ll get the same (if not more) reaction for the gift.

Hint about all the things you’ve listed. And choose the one that get the best reaction from that person.

Combine 2 or 3 of the listed interest in one gift

For example, if you have your name, cell phone accessories and paintings in your list. You can make a custom power bank printed with your drawings. And put your initial signature in the drawing. This would melt his/her heart. The power bank has the chance to stay with that person until the end of time even when it’s not functioning any more.

The romantic wrapper

Gift wrappers or box, or presentation as a whole. this is usually neglected. 

I used to wrap a gift for my best friend with newspapers on the outside, and inside, i wrapped it with a pretty expensive gifts wrappers and ribbons and lace and a nice drawing. the reason behind this is, because i have to give the gift during school and i was quite embarrass about it. so i conceal the pretty wrappings with news papers. 

She was uninterested with the gift when she received it. she said her thanks and we proceed gossiping. and tomorrow meeting, i got her best thanks packaged with a high pitched illustration on the wrappings and the gift, on how pretty it was and how shocked she was yesterday. and the smile remains until now. it can be a good memory. even when all of us has grown up so much. 

So pay attention to the wrappings.

for guys, wrap it with his favorite football club logos, or his favourite color. or just paint his name the way he likes the most. the best you can make possible.  

Pay attention to the things that that person doesn’t like

Avoid the things that that person hates, or the things that can trigger negative emotion from that person.

This seems obvious, but for some people, even this is not listed in their skills book.

For example, a husband who saw his wife doesn’t show any interest when he’s talking about bycicle goes and buys her a bycicle as a birthday gift. Just because he enjoys cycling. This happens. And the impact of the gift may disappoint that person and you as the giver.

A letter

Write something. Couple your gift with a history, an appreciation words, a love letter, a romantic request, or anything. Pour your heart out. I’m the kind who can’t really say embarrassing things to the person I love, but I can say it in the SMSms, whatsapp, emails, postcards or anything other than saying it directly to them. Use your strength.

Give the letter on a its best time

Give the letter to your loved one after that person already received the gift. After he/she has unwrapped the gift. After that person tried the gift. Not with the gift or before. This way, you’ll get an even better reaction from your loved one. A simple letter could give a very emotional feeling at this time as they already received the gift, and already felt the excitement and felt loved.

Try it.

The magic word

Finally, don’t shy away from saying ‘I love you’ to your loved ones.

A bunch of roses is a wonderful gift, but a bunch of roses which comes with an ‘I love you’ note is powerful to trigger the emotions.